I'm angry today. Mainly because i slept funny and my neck hurts. Plus we ran out of milk and i really wanted porridge this morning. But also because i'm beginning to get more and more pissed off with people assuming i'm seeing a guy just because i'm good friends with them.
For example, i'm rushing to town two weeks ago (late as usual) to meet a mate. I'm on the phone to my ex, Dan who begins to coo when i state that i'm meeting a male friend. "OOOOhhh Ray. Are you going on a date?", "No!" I shout, "He's just a mate."
I don't understand why a girl can't have guy mates without everyone assuming that she is seeing one of them. Saying that implied i have no self-control and in many ways, i'm basically a slag. That's totally not fair.
I've always found it easier to get on with guys. They don't give you bullshit, tell you exactly what you need to hear, and are always there to put a strong arm around you and tell you things will be fine, stop being such a girl and let's go get a beer. I love that. Some of my closest mates ever have been guys, while my best girl mate freindships have been turbulent to say the least.
When i was in halls at uni, i lived in a flat with five other girls. Sure, it was fun a lot of the time, but there was large amount of screaming, shouting, swearing, undercover bitching and annoying cliques forming. You couldn't tell one something because you know it would get back to everyone else and before you knew it, you have five knives sticking out your back. I don't know where i would have been if it were not for my lad mates that let me escape to their flats when things got heated.
Normally, when i'm in a relationship, having guy mates is fine, becuase everyone knows you're in a relationship. But when you happen to be newly single, and part of the horrific rumour mill that is the bar industry, having guys mates can be really frustrating. Without some of them, i'd be a very different person. True, i have way too many clothes, love fashion, music, sex and the city, shopping and other girly things...but you can't exaclty talk to your best mate about Top Gear, Final Fantasy Seven and Marvel comics can you?
No you can't.
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